Be a good little boy or girl and we’ll let you have sex, conjugal sex—that is, if you’re not already having it with your cellmates. Either way, “we” believe that conjugal sex is a reward to be had; and it will certainly be a step-up from regular sex. So you naughty prisoners better behave yourselves because A is for Apple and C is for Sex!
A for Apple and C for Sex
First it was food, then water, then clothing and shelter, and now sex? What’s next, a weekend trip to have that sex on the beach with a spouse? It seems how much sex one gets to have in some parts of the world may be determined based on the number of points he/she earns for good behavior while in prison. If so, then perhaps non-prisoners should also be wary of deductions being made from their imperceptible point cards, lest they go to bed without “getting any” tonight.
It is true that in some places a prisoner is a human-being and is entitled to rights. This is all well and good according to the law. Nevertheless, sometimes a seemingly trivial topic like “conjugal sex for prisoners” arises out of the blue. And suddenly one finds themselves asking questions. Would this pave the way for a much bigger ploy to “accidentally” stroll its way into our lives.
Conjugal sex for prisoners
Conjugal sex for prisoners is nothing new. It is common in many countries and has been for quite some time. So then why all the fuss about implementing the same law in other countries? That answer is simple. Some countries have proven readiness in accepting the consequences that follow conjugal sex and others are not.
It will help at this point to look at both the advantages and disadvantages that can occur if conjugal sex was legally allowed in all places. A primary advantage is that prisoners would have an extra incentive to behave themselves; they would obtain higher points to qualify them for enhanced privileges (similarly to earning higher academic grades in schools). This will will result in them receiving more bonding time with their loved ones, and of course having more sex. Lucky them!
More about the Sex
On the other hand, there are disadvantages as well, mainly this one: “A child can be trained but chances are that an adult prisoner can only be retrained.” When you reward an untrained child for good behavior that child gradually accepts the natural consequences of his/her actions.
But rewarding a retrained mind for good behavior has its own effects; he/she will believe they are entitled to a reward because a reward for good deeds may not be something they are used to. There’s a thin line between the two but there’s still a difference. One mind will be more inclined to genuinely want to be well behaved; the other will only choose to be well behaved for the sake of receiving something good in return. In this case, sex. But it gets bigger than this.
When Sex doesn’t set you free
There are many people who are easily blinded by rewards and nothing else. Somehow they only see the smaller picture as opposed to the value of things such as their freedom.
Freedom, or lack of it, is a thing that can easily become obscured should too many extra rewards be granted under circumstances, particularly under those where only the rewards necessary for survival and the rebuilding of a person’s character should be given in the first place.
Sex isn’t necessary
Contrary to popular belief, sex is not necessary to strengthen one’s character. In a way it actually weakens the character, as it consistently forces the individual to give in to repressed desires. And the last thing society needs is an ex-prisoner, all “renewed” and ready to start a new life in the world with the subliminal idea that he/she can behave well in front of others and must then be rewarded exactly when and how they see fit.
In essence, a conjugal visit (without the sex) could stand a better chance of going a longer way. Either way, it is not wise to knock a potentially practical theory until it is proven to be tried and untrue.
When the Apple is better than the Sex
Rewards for good behavior are fine but limits are also important. The longer a person who is on the road to becoming a better person can go without receiving too many rewards in-between, the better off that person will be. If anything, a person of strong character would skip the chance to have conjugal sex while locked-up in prison; instead they would choose to become so well-behaved that a magistrate may have no choice but to remove years from the original jail sentence.
This would then allow the prisoner to more quickly be able to leave the prison running into the sunlight, screaming, “I’m free! I’m free!” Their reward will be complete liberty. No longer would they have to be thinking about why A is for Apple and C is for Sex. They will just once again possess the freedom of doing whatever their hearts desire to do with their loved ones whenever they please … no bars attached!
